Self confidence is so important to creating the life you want because if your mind isn’t confident in your ability to create, it’ll continue to second guess you and not trust your judgment.
I know this because I’ve experienced the side effects of low self confidence: people pleasing, procrastination, low self-esteem, and more. This caused me to be in situations where I made some serious judgement calls and that was the beginning of a vicious cycle.
Now you might have experienced something similar or know that you are struggling with low self confidence. This doesn’t have to be the case.
But if you are experiencing those thing you’re probably making these mistakes:
Mistake #1: Not being self-aware
Self-Awareness is all about knowing who you are, what you want, and where you are going in life. If you are struggling with feeling stuck, or not knowing what you want, or even where you are heading in life then chances are you are struggling in the self-awareness category. Without any direction, you’ll continue to feel stuck. The direction comes from knowing your purpose, values, skills, become aware of limiting beliefs and how to utilize them.
Becoming more self-aware isn’t hard. It’s a matter of asking yourself a lot of questions and reflecting on the answers.
Mistake #2: Not accepting your authentic self
You might feel you’re fat, ugly, weird, etc. You might struggle with being a leader or humility. That’s ok. That’s not your mission. You can decide to beat yourself up over it, build those skills, or focus on what makes you, you and OWN IT! When you beat yourself up or focus on only “improving yourself” you will detract from your confidence.
Self Acceptance is key to increasing confidence. When you OWN exactly who you are and where you are on your journey your confidence will increase exponentially.
Mistake #3: Not loving yourself
This is not a cliché and even with the whole self-care movement that’s happening right now, it’s unnerving how many women aren’t loving on themselves. And this isn’t just about bubble baths and manicures though those things can play a part.
Loving yourself is about your boundaries with others and yourself. It’s about meeting your needs and making yourself a priority in your life. It’s about putting your oxygen mask on first and filling your cup first. When you do these things you are better able to serve and help others.
Mistake #4: Treating yourself like a red-headed stepchild
You neglect yourself and don’t care for you. You don’t pay your needs any mind and you constantly second-guess your own desires and place everyone before you. You are basically treating yourself like a martyr. You might struggle with constantly being there and rescuing others but feel as if no one is there for you when you need it.
Mistake #5: You don’t trust yourself
Lack of self-trust is one of those underlying things that you don’t seem to notice but your subconscious is quite aware of it. It’s the need to constantly seek external affirmation and confirmation. You don’t trust that you’re able to meet your needs or take care of yourself and may rely on others to do that for you. You’re holding on to limiting beliefs about yourself that just aren’t true.
Now don’t get discouraged if you are experiencing these challenges or mistakes.
The best thing about all of this is that as humans we tend to want to grow when we know there is growing to be had. We don’t like being stagnant and stuck and if we can find a way to do something even if that’s simply shifting our perspective on something we are open to it!
That’s one of the reason I became a coach! To aid in this.
